Weekly Fitbit stats

My avg. daily fitbit #fitstats for last week: 8,721 steps and 3.9 miles traveled. http://www.fitbit.com/user/2243J3

What do you like best about living in town so far? Is there anything specific you miss about Mililani?

The best thing about living in town, is being able to walk to work. It takes me back to my youthful days of high school, where I walked about a mile to school every morning, then walked back home in the afternoon. Walking gives a new perspective on scenes that flash by from behind safety glass at 30+ mph.

Time. I have more of it living in town. I really do value it and am quickly spoiled by it now. No more 45-minute commutes in one direction (and that’s WITHOUT traffic). No more stopping at Costco to get gas more than once a week… or putting 25K miles in a year on my brand new car. (Goddamn I love my Honda Fit)!

A cat. I have a pet cat here in town. Some days I love it. Some days… I think to myself: I still love my cat, but Jesus, cat. You are one crazy little furry beast. And then sometimes we fight. Is it called a cat-fight, if it’s between one cat and one human, btw?

Mililani is my hometown. I love the way things are more spaced-out on that side of the island. Driving home past Waipio Gentry — that one long stretch between Pearl City and Mililani, where you see no buildings, no houses.. just trees and grass and mountains.. so nice. Mililani also doesn’t have telephone and electrical wires everywhere. Dare I say the people are different? In Mililani when I went jogging, more than 65% of the people made eye contact and greeted me in some way. In town, less than 75% of the people acknowledge me, and I’ve taken to no longer making eye contact after being ignored countless times. (wait, I’m bitching again).

Mililani has great weather. I did not have the foresight to purchase a place with good cross-breezes in town, and boy am I paying the price. For the first time in my life, I’m sleeping with oscillating fans on, and don’t even use the blanket more than 50% of the time. In fact, I only use sheets. All my cool Sesame Street comforters and blankets are stored away, possibly never to be used until I move again. But wait, you asked what I *liked* about living in town, so I’ll stop my bitching about the heat. heh.

It’s also been a case of “you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone” in the sense that I lived in a house and had privacy and plush carpeting, and a yard where I could plant stuff or just walk around and water stuff.. and being able to park in the garage that is just a few steps away from the front door is awesome. Being able to watch TV an listen to music without worrying about the volume, being able to play with my rabbit, (I miss my rabbit), and memories of growing up with my family in that house.. I miss that and I value those times. I had it good.

In the end, both are good, but town doesn’t have the nostalgia and great weather Mililani does. Mililani is beautiful, but doesn’t have the convenience of being close enough to town. If only I’d found a job in Kapolei, or Wahiawa or something. I’d have stayed out that side. But, at least my friends live in town, and it’s a new experience — so I like that aspect of it a lot.

I’ve moved!

Again. Making this site yet another abandoned shell of a blog. See my more recent trivial endeavors here: joan9.tumblr.com

Weekly Fitbit stats

My avg. daily fitbit #fitstats for last week: 6,698 steps and 2.9 miles traveled. http://www.fitbit.com/user/2243J3

Weekly Fitbit stats

My avg. daily fitbit #fitstats for last week: 8,721 steps and 3.9 miles traveled. http://www.fitbit.com/user/2243J3

Weekly Fitbit stats

My avg. daily fitbit #fitstats for last week: 8,700 steps and 4.3 miles traveled. http://www.fitbit.com/user/2243J3

What’s the most inappropriate thing that someone has said or done while on a date with you?

Hmm. This is personal and kinda stupid, (my answer, not your question) but here goes! I had a real jerky ex once. His friends were upset we dated since one of then had the hots for him. The entire relationship was abusive and cruel towards me. I should have left two weeks into the relationship when I’d begun to feel like something was amiss, but I was young, and tried to believe people were inherently good…

So, we go to a club and he leaves me alone at a small table near the dance floor, while he goes and sits on a large couch along the back wall with all of these friends who also show up at the same place. He had already told me we aren’t allowed to be affectionate in public in front of his friends. No hand holding, nothing.He’d also made it clear none of them liked me. So, I sat at the tiny table, and waited. The couch they’re sitting on, faces me the whole time, and I can feel the bad vibes coming from there as they laugh overly loud and animatedly.. while I sit quietly alone, and try to avoid glances from random men smiling, winking, etc. at the gal alone near the dance floor. He leaves me alone for about 40 minutes, during which time, some guy comes along and sits across me, and drunkenly starts hitting on me. I glance back there, and they’re all still on the couch, laughing it up. The drunk guy is getting in my face, and isn’t mean. Just kinda sleazy.

So, I politely tell the man I have to leave, and I do. And when I said leave, I really meant it. I left the club. I walked up the street to the nearest 7-11 to get me an icee cause I’m so bummed. My bf doesn’t even notice all this, until the end, when I return and he’s fuming mad at me for not telling him I left because he was embarrassed that he had to ask someone at the bar to use their phone to try and page me. (This was in the 90s when most people only carried a pager). I told him how he bummed me out and dudes were hitting on me, and that I just left because I wanted an Icee to cheer me up.

On the way to get Icee, men in a truck tailed me part of the way and asked me to come cruise with them in their trruck. It was a bit dangerous since it was after 2 AM and so, maybe I risked my life for an Icee. But I felt self-destructive and invincible, and non-caring about myself at the time. And, I loved Icee. I needed an emotional band-aid. (I know 7-11 sells Slurpee and not Icee, but it was an Icee I really wanted. And was going for the next best thing, and kept referring to it as an Icee in my mind back then).

I would have appreciated it if his concern was for my safety, but it was his hurt pride when he had to come look for me and let his friends realize he didn’t know where his woman had gotten to, And even though I explained why I’d left.. dude hitting on me, being ignored by everyone, really wanting a Icee.. He made it clear that I should never do anything like that to him ever again. And barked the orders at me like I was a dog. No apologies. Just a scolding for making him have to look for me. Said I should have stayed put, at the table where he left me.

We broke up after that.

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Would you rather swim in a pool or the ocean?

This depends. Is it a pool filled with money? Or an ocean infested with sharks? Need more info.

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If you were stranded on a desert island, which one person would you bring with you?

I’ll say Keanu Reeves, but as Neo, from The Matrix. I imagine he can save us, and teleport us someplace cool. He is "The One!"

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What’s more important – who you know or what you know?

Who you know. Cause then you make sure they’re smarter than you and know all that you need to know, and also, that they’re cool enough to help you out when you need it. Plus, if you know someone who’s got a time machine, then it’s all good.

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